“I am my parents' only son. If I tell them that I'm gay, they will be absolutely devastated. Their entire idea of their life—bang!—will rot away." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"My mother's reaction was 'It's a teenage thing, you'll grow out of it, you simply haven't met the right girl yet.' The most ridiculous thing is that I was already 26." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"I can judge girls aesthetically...kind of like pictures in a museum." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"My grandmother used to read me Viy [a horror short story by Nikolai Gogol] as a bedtime story as I fell asleep." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"When my parents lived together, they wanted to expand their house, so they bought a truck full of sand and delivered the sand to our yard. Then they got divorced, and the sand just sat there. So I had a sandbox, and all my friends always hung out with me." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"I haven't communicated with my mother for about 3 years. The reason is her homophobia. She said that people like me have to be killed, burned, castrated. It shook everything I knew about her and ever felt for her. It is strange that I was brought up by a person like her. How could I have come from her?" © Tatiana Vinogradova
"When you say to heterosexual men 'you are not my sort of guy,' they are always surprised." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"Remember the magazine Rovesnik? Every month me and my mom went to Soyuzpechat kiosk [a network of press kiosks in the USSR]. And once Brad Pitt was on the cover. I don't even like Brad Pitt...Anyway, mom bought me the magazine, and I took it and kissed the cover for some reason. I can't explain why I did it. But mom was perplexed." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"I'm trying to prepare myself for loneliness. I don't cherish any illusions about surrogate mothers and mythical children that gays can adopt. I picture a scenario where there is no one to bury me." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"When I was 6 years old, I told my mother that I wanted to pierce my ear. She asked again if I really wanted to do it, and after I said I did, we got it pierced. The next day was the first time I heard someone call me a faggot." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"Love is like having a compass inside you that points north. And north is that person." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"As a child, I bred spiders. I fed them with ants and watched how they grew. Then I played with them." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"When it came time to kiss a girl, I started laughing." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"My grandfather was a very clever and acute person. I think I was about 9 or 10 years old, I don't remember, but once he asked me directly, 'Are you gay?' I think I answered, 'What’s a gay?'" © Tatiana Vinogradova
"Each gay person has their own heterosexual environment. And if you make this environment tolerable, make it so that it accepts you as you are, then you've done your job." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"I've gone walking alone since I was 7. There is a river called Volkovka near my house where the railroad and garages are. Before, there were thickets instead of garages, and I just went and spent my day in these thickets. There were no people. People are aggressive." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"I used to work in the criminal investigation department. You know how it happens: colleagues say, 'Let's go to the steam bath and invite some girls along.' I answered 'No thanks. I have to leave.' People started to ask questions. Then they began to say it to my face: 'What kind of police officer are you?' I had to leave my job because of that." © Tatiana Vinogradova
"The meaning of life is to live your own life. Not someone else's, not an illusory life, but a full life. To breathe with two lungs instead of breathing with one and saying, 'I don’t need my second lung.'" © Tatiana Vinogradova